Most of us are familiar with the practice of loving and caring for our parents, children, or significant others. And although we do so imperfectly, we do our best to practice this love for them on a daily basis.
But do we attempt to practice the same level of love and care with ourselves?
Most of the time the answer is NO. Think about it…
- How often to you criticise your physical appearance?
- How often to you tell yourself you aren’t good enough?
- How often do you unfairly compare yourself to others?
- How often to guilt yourself into doing things?
- How often do you put your own needs last?
- How often do you berate yourself for making mistakes?
I’ll be the first to admit that I still struggle with all the above. And I know I’m not the only one.
For many of us, there is an underlying feeling of being less than we think we should be. This isn’t something we consciously do to ourselves, but it happens, again and again. And we CAN choose differently!
YOU can choose differently!
Today, what if you started practicing a little more self-love, self-care, and self-acceptance? What if you took a good look at yourself, your body, your feelings, your situation, and told yourself, “You are perfectly fine! You are enough! You are worth it”?
How would doing so change your attitude and life?
Seriously think about the possibility of accepting everything about yourself, just as you are right now, without yearning to change yourself in any way.
It’s important to note, too, that accepting yourself the way you are is not about complacency and inaction. It’s about realising that you can’t hate and berate yourself into a better version of yourself. Positive growth is built on a foundation of love and acceptance. The person who loves herself (or himself) is more likely to take positive actions that move things forward for all the right reasons.
In the end, you will change no matter what. Nothing lasts. You simply can’t avoid changing with the times. The question is whether the change you experience in life comes from a place of love and acceptance, or a place of self-loathing and resistance.
I vote for love and acceptance.
But the choice is YOURS to make.
If you’re feeling up to it, I would love to hear from you.
What are your thoughts?