Changing How You See and Treat People Today

Since Chris and I understand why we should not judge people, we sometimes still forget especially when we are in the heat of the moment, so we have implemented a simple strategy that reminds us NOT to judge (and to ask ourselves the questions listed yesterday instead).
We have compiled a list of quotes and thoughts that we have read multiple times and add to occasionally. This is so when we feel the itch of judgment stirring inside us we think of these quotes to remind us to take a breath. We still have to practice, of course, but our default tendency to judge others is decreasing more and more.
So here they are, let me know what you think.
1. Everybody you meet is afraid of something, loves something, and has lost something.  Know this.  You never know what someone has been through, or what they’re going through today.  Don’t be lazy and make empty judgments about them.  Be kind.  Ask about their stories.  Listen.  Be humble.  Be teachable.
2. Some people build lots of walls in their lives and not enough bridges.  Don’t be one of them.  Open yourself up.  Take small chances on people.  Let them shift your perspective.  We all take different roads seeking to find love, joy, and peace.  Just because someone is traveling a different road, doesn’t mean they’re lost or going the wrong way.
3. No one has ever made themselves strong by showing how small someone else is.  Remember this, and communicate accordingly.
4. The single greatest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.  Too often we don’t listen to understand, we listen to reply.  Bring awareness to this.  And listen for what’s truly behind the words.
5. Be present.  Be thoughtful.  Compliment people.  Magnify their strengths, not their weaknesses.  This is how to make a real and lasting difference in your relationships, new and old.
6. Set an example.  Treat everyone with respect, even those who are rude to you; I know it’s hard but it’s not because they are nice, but because YOU are.  And do your best to be thankful for the rude and difficult people too; they serve as great reminders of how not to be.
7. People will rarely think and act exactly the way you want them to.  Hope for the best, but expect less.  Agree to disagree when necessary.  And be careful not to dehumanise those you disagree with.  In our superiority, we can easily become the very things we dislike in others.
8. People are much nicer when they are happier, which says a lot about those who aren’t very nice to us.  Sad, but true.  The way we treat people we disagree with is a reflection of what we’ve learned about love, compassion and kindness.  Let’s just wish them well, and be on our way.
9. You can’t control how people receive your energy.  And you can’t take things too personally, even if it seems personal.  Rarely do people do things because of you.  They do things because of them.  There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to when you detach from other people’s behaviors.  The way they treat you is their issue, how you respond is yours.
10. The wisest, most loving, and well-rounded people you have ever met are likely those who have been shattered by some kind of heartbreak.  Yes, life often creates the best humans by breaking them first.  Their destruction into pieces allows them to be fine-tuned and reconstructed into a masterpiece.  Let this continue to remind you to be way kinder than necessary, every step of the way.

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