Chances are if you opened this, you have trouble loving yourself. It’s hard to do, I know. Loving yourself is hard; you know your flaws, you know what you struggle with. It’s hard to accept yourself because you know there is better. You know that you are not the best. It’s hard to forgive yourself because you can do better. You know you can be better. You are hard on yourself. I get it, I know.
We all struggle. Everyone has their own problems, everyone has their own story. We are all making our way through life: different stages, different experiences, different struggles. What you need to hear, is that you are loved. Even if you don’t believe it, you are. There is someone, at least one person, who thinks the absolute world of you. It might be your mum, dad, sister, brother, aunt, uncle, friend, or colleague. Someone out there would give anything for you.
They see you for the wonderful person that you are, and all that you can become. Maybe all you have become. They believe in you, they look up to you, they admire you. They love you for the beautiful soul that you are. Believe them. Let yourself believe that you are worth loving. Understand what you mean to that person. Know that you are valued, and you have a place in this world. You matter. Love you, also.
You know your flaws; you know them better than anyone else. You understand your character flaws and maybe your physical flaws. Don’t focus on them. It’s easier said than done, I know. But, you are so much more than the downfalls you feel you have. When you love yourself, you can accept yourself. You can know your flaws, you can work on being a better person, but you don’t have to destroy yourself doing it. You can pace yourself. You can be yourself. Watch the films you want – especially if its Disney, have the friends you want. You can let yourself eat that pizza, or you can be OK with your pyjamas. It’s okay to have a lazy day, or a lazy weekend every now and then. Accepting yourself is doing what you want and being who you are.
Let’s clarify for what. You don’t need to apologise to yourself for having junk food on occasion, or wearing your pyjamas (you can tell I love my pjs right?). You deserve those things. You deserve a break. You do not need to apologise for accepting yourself. Forgive yourself when you fail or fall, when you say something you don’t mean, or when you get a bad result. Forgive yourself if you hurt someone, or if you hurt yourself. Forgive yourself so you can try again. Remember, we all struggle.
Struggling looks different on everyone. When you forgive yourself, you love yourself. It’s hard, I know, but you deserve it. It is your obligation to love yourself, to give yourself what you deserve.