Just like happiness, getting rid of things you do not need in your life is a choice. You don’t usually get forced into it (though sometimes this can happen) and usually no one is going to do it for you (how often to people really come into your house and start de-cluttering?). Therefore, it’s all up to you. You have to make the choice to get rid of what you don’t need in your life. Ready? Okay, let’s go let go!
- Decide what is really important. Take a step back and think about what is really, truly important to you, when you do you will begin to realise that many of the things you are holding on to aren’t as important as you once thought. What is important is being healthy, happy, and living your life to the fullest. If you are clinging to things or people, then you are not really living happily and at peace with yourself. Step back and assess what really matters to you and letting go will become a lot easier.
- Assess what benefits you are getting. One of the reasons we hang on to things or people is because we believe we need them, we believe we are really getting something of value from having them around. But is that true? Think about it (and I mean really think about it). Are you benefiting from the clutter in your life? Is your life richer because you are surrounded by those people? Probably not. If you take a moment and list the benefits you are getting from something you should let go of, you will probably have a short list. Use this to motivate yourself to let go.
- Recognise that you are overvaluing it. Typically it is you that is placing all of the value on a person or thing that you are holding on to unnecessarily. More often than not, you are idealising that person or thing and telling yourself that, for whatever reason, you need to have it in your life. However, that is not true. If you believe you should be letting go than you should let go. What you need in your life is you. You also need things that are bringing you up, not down. If something isn’t bringing you up, if it isn’t absolutely necessary, stop overvaluing it and let it go.
- Let it go, no matter how hard it is. It really does come down to the old Nike slogan, “Just do it.” No matter how hard it is, no matter what obstacles stand in your way, sometimes you have to just suck it up and let it go. I know, firsthand, that this is much easier said (or written!) than done, but, honestly, it really is the only way. Whether it’s a person or a thing (or even a feeling), the best advice is just to let go (and don’t go chasing after it either!). When you actually take action, you’ll see that you’re just fine without it.As much as you might think you need something, keep in mind that “need” is a very strong word. What you really “need” in your life is very different from what you might think you need.
Remember that, deep down, you really do know what’s best for yourself. If there’s something telling you that you need to let go, listen to that instinct. Your gut feelings will let you know what’s right and what’s wrong. You just need to open your mind and listen to them. And then, when you hear that voice telling you that you need to let something go, have the courage to really listen and to take action. Letting something go isn’t ever easy, but you can make your whole world better and more positive just by loosening your grip and letting go.